10 Early Marriage Adjustments & 10 Ways They Strengthen Your Bond Forever
Be prepared to embrace these early marriage adjustments and enjoy how they can strengthen your bond for good.
- Cyra Sanchez
- 7 min read
We all know marriage comes with many changes, but which ones should you expect to make first? Your relationship is more vulnerable during the early stages of marriage since you’re adjusting to your new life. That’s why you should embrace these 10 early marriage adjustments as soon as possible and enjoy the 10 ways they can strengthen your bond forever.
1. Embrace that adjustments are inevitable
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One of the first adjustments after marriage is accepting that change is inevitable. You’re bound to compromise at some point for the sake of your relationship. Preparing for any obstacles and learning how to work them out with your spouse would be best. As you embrace this fact, you’ll become more open to making any adjustments needed for your marriage.
2. No more keeping secrets
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Once you’re married, expect to become completely transparent with your spouse. You can’t keep any more secrets or hide parts of yourself; doing so will only put your marriage at risk and show a lack of trust. This doesn’t mean marriage takes away your privacy; it’s only about being 100% honest with your spouse.
3. Be the change you want to see in your spouse
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Before focusing on things you want to change in your partner, start with yourself first. It’s always better to lead by example, so be ready to become the change you expect from each other. As some people say, fix yourself first before trying to fix others.
4. Divide chores and responsibilities equally
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Properly splitting your chores or responsibilities must be done immediately; newlyweds may forget to set house rules, thinking they can assume roles independently. This may cause you to play guessing games with each other, wondering why your spouse isn’t doing something you expect them to do without being asked. Avoid that common mistake in your marriage and verbally agree with your spouse about the division of chores or responsibilities.
5. Prepare to discover more of your differences
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Marriage makes you both more vulnerable to each other. You’ll begin to notice new things about your spouse, witnessing different sides of them you may have never seen before. To avoid fighting over new differences, prepare to embrace those challenges together.
6. Expect your fights to be more difficult
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After marriage, your fights will be more intense since you now live together. This means every little sign of irritation or subtle body language could have a heavier impact on your battle. At the same time, you’ll be sharing the same living spaces, and it will be hard to avoid conflict.
7. Be more open and understanding
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Marriage is where you’ll genuinely start challenging each other. Your patience and commitment will be tested, so prepare to extend your understanding. No matter how destructive the conflict or your disagreements are, you and your spouse should always stay kind to each other.
8. Your schedules will sync
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In most cases, married couples will start and end their days together; this means you’ll share a daily routine that may leave you less time to be alone. While always having “me time” is healthy, you’ll still spend more time with your spouse. Be ready to merge your lives or your worlds.
9. Clear any doubts immediately
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Early marriage is a time when everything is still fragile and vulnerable. That’s why you have to treat your relationship with extra care. Clear up doubts or address concerns as quickly as possible to prevent conflict from spreading and burning both of you.
10. Be ready to manage finances responsibly
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Money is one of the most common and biggest enemies of married couples; that’s why you should brace yourself to manage your finances and be financially smart. No matter how much your income is, you and your spouse should still plan responsibly. After all, you’re navigating life together from now on, and your finances will influence your marriage in one way or another.
As you embrace these adjustments, you’ll soon enjoy the good things it can do for your relationship. Find out the 10 ways these adjustments can strengthen your bond forever.
1. You won’t have unhealthy expectations
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Accepting adjustments for your marriage is one way to let go of unhealthy expectations. This prevents feelings of disappointment, resentment, or even holding grudges in your marriage. By keeping your standards realistic, your bond will grow stronger.
2. Your trust and connection will grow deeper
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By being fully transparent with your spouse, building trust becomes easier. That’s because you no longer have doubts about each other or things you want to hide; you’ll be able to love and appreciate each other in the purest ways.
3. You’ll inspire each other
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When you stop expecting change and start inspiring change, you’ll become each other’s role models. This allows your marriage to breathe freely without feeling pressured to change. It also creates a healthy competition between you and your spouse as you continue motivating each other to grow together.
4. There won’t be any power imbalance
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By assigning appropriate roles for each other, you’ll avoid overwhelming your spouse. This means you can take on tasks or chores and focus on responsibilities without worrying about not doing your part. At the same time, you can still always offer to help your spouse when you can.
5. You’ll discover new parts to embrace in each other
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Newly found differences shouldn’t always be an obstacle to your relationship but rather a chance to strengthen your bond. By embracing the new sides of your spouse, you’re showing them that you love them despite your differences. This also shows that no matter how you or your spouse may change, you’re ready to accept them unless they change.
6. Improvement in your communication skills
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By acknowledging that conflict can’t be avoided in marriage, you’re mentally preparing yourself to handle it. This encourages you to work on your communication skills; thus, you and your spouse will be more open, honest, and vocal whenever there’s a concern. The sooner you can settle any conflict by communicating, the healthier your marriage can grow.
7. Deepens your emotional intimacy
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As marriage exposes your vulnerabilities, you’ll have more chances to connect with your spouse emotionally. You’ll both be in touch with your deepest emotions, and you’ll always be aware of each other’s feelings; you can show this by never judging your spouse’s emotions, knowing when to apologize, showing gratitude, and so on. The more you understand your spouse emotionally, the stronger your bond will be.
8. You’ll find ways to meet each other’s needs
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Once you’re married, you’ll inevitably start spending more time together. While this may be overwhelming initially, it’s also your chance to keep in touch with each other’s needs. Anytime you’re together, make it a habit to ask how your partner feels, what they want, and if there is anything they need.
9. You’ll create a safe space for each other
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When you try to clear any doubts immediately, you’re demonstrating that it’s okay to bring up anything on your spouse’s mind. This encourages them to open up more and avoid hiding things from each other. This safe space will go a long way in your relationship, keeping your bond strong.
10. You’ll avoid arguing over financial troubles
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Being ready to handle finances is a great way to prevent future conflicts related to them. Money can easily cause a lot of arguments, especially when you’re both working full-time jobs or managing businesses. Without the concern of money in the way, your marriage can focus on other things that can help your bond deepen.