10 Silent Relationship Killers & 10 Daily Habits That Make Love Last

Many things can slowly kill your relationship without realizing it. So before it reaches that point, you must study the signs to know how to save your relationship. Start by learning about these 10 silent relationship red flags and 10 daily habits you can practice to make your love last.

1. Stonewalling

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If one of you shuts down and starts isolating or giving each other silent treatment before or after an argument, that could worsen the problem instead of fixing it. This habit is called stonewalling, and it achieves nothing but pushing your partner away. It’s an example of poor communication skills that can kill your relationship.

2. Lack of quality time

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No matter how long you’ve been together, spending quality time together is still necessary. Otherwise, you’ll eventually grow distant from each other, feel disconnected, or feel like there are no “sparks” anymore. This could make you lose interest in the relationship as you’re no longer putting in the effort for each other.

3. Intentionally causing jealousy

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Some people think it’s fun or cute when their partner gets jealous, so they may do it on purpose just to get a reaction from their partner. Not only is this a cruel joke that does nothing but boost someone’s ego, but it’s also a quick way to make your partner lose trust in you, which could kill your relationship.

4. Lack of proper teamwork

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A healthy couple should make a great team. This means dividing your responsibilities fairly, and no one has to carry an extra burden at all times. Couples who don’t support each other or even bother to show up during times of need will have a weaker foundation in their relationship. 

5. Holding grudges

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You’re bound never to grow together when your relationship has hidden resentment. One way or another, that unresolved grudge will find a way to sabotage your relationship. Some people are so good at hiding their grudge that it might catch you off guard the day it sneaks up on your relationship.

6. Losing your individuality

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Couples may find themselves lost in their romantic life, which may cause them to lose their identities. This means you stopped spending time on your interests, social life, and sometimes, even your career. Losing your individuality is a silent killer that will cause you to feel incomplete, depressed, or even change your personality, which could end your relationship.

7. Poor communication skills

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Unless you’re dating a mind reader, couples need proper communication skills. Otherwise, they’re doomed to fail. Lack of communication will leave you both feeling unheard of, or it might give the impression that none of you care about your relationship.

8. Lack of emotional intimacy

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Relationships need more than quality time or physical touch; they also need emotional intimacy. Without that, couples won’t feel connected to each other and won’t be able to fulfill each other’s needs. This may result in frequent misunderstandings that lead to arguments.

9. Taking each other for granted

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When you get used to your partner’s presence and everything you do for each other, you might take each other for granted. This means you no longer show appreciation for their efforts or forget to say “thank you.” These little gestures can make couples last; without them, you’ll be unhappy in a relationship that doesn’t appreciate you.

10. Unproductive arguments

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Those arguments were unproductive if you argued a lot without resolving anything afterward. It reflects a lack of emotional intimacy and poor communication skills. This shows that one or both of you may care more about winning the argument than treating it as a chance to get closer and a way to improve your relationship.

With these silent killers in a relationship, you’d want to know how to make things work. So, let us tell you about these 10 daily habits that can make your love last.

1. Keeping each other updated

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Checking in on each other’s well-being and asking about each other’s days are small gestures that mean a lot. It shows that you’re both interested in your daily lives and caring about your partner. If you’re a long-distance couple, sending regular text updates will keep your relationship strong.

2. Making time for physical intimacy

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Before going out or doing other things yourself, make it a habit to give your partner a quick kiss, a few seconds of hug, a 5-minute cuddle, a short handholding gesture, or such. These little affectionate acts could put a lot into your physical intimacy with each other. Remember, physical touch is one of the five primary love languages, so use it to your advantage and strengthen your relationship.

3. Complimenting each other

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A simple compliment can go a long way, especially for couples. When was the last time you praised them, told them they looked good, or took notice of their new haircut? Sometimes, you only need to pay more attention to your partner to keep your love alive.

4. Showing gratitude

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Anytime your partner does something for you, no matter how small the gesture may be, never forget to thank you. You can also consider leaving little love notes expressing how you appreciate them and are grateful for everything they do in your relationship. As simple as it sounds, your partner would understand it’s a romantic gesture.

5. Helping each other with daily tasks

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Even though you’re both already comfortable with your daily chores, you should still make it a habit to ask your partner if they need your help. Sometimes, people forget to ask for help and may take on a lot of burden despite going through other things in their minds. So, to show your love, care, and support, you should always offer to help each other no matter the task.

6. Making your partner smile

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Go out of your way to do little things that make your partner smile daily. You can pull a harmless joke, catch them by surprise, show them something funny on your phone, or such. This small gesture can keep your relationship healthy; as the saying goes, laughter is good medicine.

7. Opening up with each other

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Make it a habit to talk to each other about things that are on your mind and be comfortable opening up to each other. This prevents letting any problem sit and grow in silence because no one is communicating about it. Promoting healthy communication is one of the keys to long-lasting love.

8. Having calm discussions not arguments

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Whenever there’s a misunderstanding or concern in your relationship, you can calmly discuss it instead of turning everything into an argument. While arguments can also be healthy, sometimes, all your partner needs is to feel heard and understood. Work on each other’s emotional availability and become each other’s peace.

9. Not letting the day end without saying “I Love You”

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Going on your day without hearing your partner loves you can affect your relationship. That’s why you should always tell each other at least once or twice a day that you love them. Start your day with an “I love you” and end the night with that, too; it shows that you’re still trying to be romantically affectionate no matter how long you’ve been dating.

10. Know how to apologize properly

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It’s essential to show your partner you’re willing to take accountability whenever you make mistakes. This conveys the message that you want to make your relationship last by being able to acknowledge your flaws. Apologize properly and commit to compromising for it to make your love last.

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