13 Things Parents Should Stop Feeling Guilty About

Parents, it's time to ditch the guilt over things that don't matter as much as you think—your love and effort are more than enough.

Sophia Zapanta
January 24, 2025
4 min read

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Parenting can feel like a guilt minefield, but much of that guilt comes from unrealistic expectations. It’s impossible to be perfect, and that’s okay—kids don’t need perfection; they need love, guidance, and acceptance. This list highlights 13 things parents should stop beating themselves up over and instead focus on being the happy, present people their kids adore.

1. Not Cooking Gourmet Meals Every Night

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Kids don’t care if dinner is chicken nuggets for the third time this week; they’re happy as long as they’re fed. Instead of stressing over fancy recipes, focus on mealtime conversations. Homemade doesn’t have to mean elaborate; even sandwiches can be made with love. Save the culinary masterpieces for when you actually enjoy them. Remember, a fed kid is a happy kid.

2. Missing a School Event

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Life happens—work meetings, emergencies, or even just pure exhaustion. Kids won’t remember every missed recital but will remember the countless ways you show up daily. Be honest with them about why you can’t make it; they’ll understand. Besides, the school records the significant events for a reason. It’s okay to cheer from the sidelines sometimes.

3. Letting Screen Time Happen

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Sometimes, screens are a lifesaver—and that’s perfectly fine. A little extra tablet time won’t ruin their future; balance is key. Use tech as a tool to teach independence while you recharge. Bonus: Many apps and shows can be surprisingly educational. Cut yourself some slack—it’s a modern parenting tool, not a sin.

4. Saying “No” to Extracurricular Overload

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Your child doesn’t need to master piano, soccer, and robotics all at once. Over-scheduling is stressful for everyone, including them. Teaching kids the value of free time is just as important as any organized activity. You’re allowed to prioritize your family’s peace. After all, boredom often leads to the best creativity.

5. Having a Messy House

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A home filled with laughter and love beats one that’s spotless but silent. Kids leave messes—it’s a part of having them. Prioritize what truly needs cleaning and let the rest wait. Show them how to clean up without making it an all-consuming priority. Life isn’t a Pinterest board, and that’s okay.

6. Taking Time for Yourself

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Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for good parenting. A refreshed, happy parent is better for everyone. Whether it’s a solo coffee run or a quiet hour with a book, take it guilt-free. Kids benefit from seeing you value your well-being. They’ll learn that it’s okay to take breaks, too.

7. Not Being “Fun Mom/Dad” 24/7

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You don’t need to be their entertainment service. Boredom teaches kids independence and creativity. Be fun when it feels natural, not because you’re pressured. Kids respect boundaries even if they whine at first. Parenting isn’t a circus—it’s about balance.

8. Losing Your Temper Sometimes

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Every parent has moments where their patience runs out. What matters is how you handle it afterward. Apologizing and explaining emotions teaches kids accountability. Perfection isn’t the goal; growth is. You’re human, and that’s an important lesson for them.

9. Working Outside the Home

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Being a working parent isn’t something to feel guilty about; it’s a reality for many. Your career can teach your child valuable lessons about responsibility and independence. Quality time matters more than the quantity of hours spent together. Communicate your love often to bridge the gap. Guilt won’t add anything; love will.

10. Letting Kids Make Mistakes

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Helicopter parenting is tempting, but letting kids stumble builds resilience. They’ll thank you later for teaching them how to problem-solve. Mistakes are life’s greatest teacher, so let them experience them early. Be there to support them, not to shield them. Growth happens outside of comfort zones.

11. Saying “No” to Unnecessary Spending

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Kids don’t need every trendy toy or gadget to feel loved. Saying no teaches them the value of money and patience. Experiences matter far more than material possessions. Your financial boundaries set an example of responsible living. Spoil them with love, not stuff.

12. Not Always Following “Parenting Trends”

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Every era comes with its fads, but what works for your family is what’s right. Trends can overwhelm rather than help. Stick to the basics: love, discipline, and communication. Kids thrive on stability, not experiments. Trust your instincts—they’re usually spot-on.