16 Old-Fashioned Manners That Have Been Forgotten
These polite customs were once everyday habits — now, they feel like relics from another century.
- Chris Graciano
- 3 min read
In an age of social media, manners of the past have quietly disappeared. These once-common courtesies helped define everyday kindness in past generations. This list shines a light on the forgotten etiquette rules that once shaped society. They might just be worth bringing back.
1. Saying “Please” and “Thank You” Consistently
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Not just once in a while, but as a daily, natural habit. These simple words were taught early and expected often. Today, many forget them altogether, especially online.
2. Holding the Door for Others
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Once a sign of respect and awareness, now often overlooked. Whether for a stranger or a friend, pausing to hold the door showed basic courtesy.
3. Standing When Someone Enters the Room
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This gesture wasn’t just for royalty — it was a sign of acknowledgment and respect. It showed someone that their presence mattered.
4. Writing Thank-You Notes by Hand
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A handwritten note showed thoughtfulness, gratitude, and effort. They took time to write and felt far more personal than a quick emoji or DM.
5. Letting Others Speak Without Interrupting
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Conversations used to be about listening as much as talking. Cutting people off was considered rude and disrespectful.
6. Gentlemen Walking on the Curb Side
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An old custom from horse-and-carriage days, where men walked closest to traffic to shield their companions. It may no longer be necessary, but it still symbolizes protectiveness and thoughtfulness.
7. RSVPing to Invitations (And Following Through)
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Whether it was a party or a wedding, responding to invitations was a must. It showed respect for the host’s effort and planning.
8. Taking Off Your Hat Indoors
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Especially for men, removing a hat when entering a home, church, or even a classroom was automatic. It was a basic gesture of respect.
9. Asking Permission Before Calling Someone
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Before smartphones, calling was planned or expected. Now, even with caller ID, people text first to avoid surprise calls.
10. Dressing Respectfully for Occasions
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Whether going to church, a restaurant, or someone’s home, people dressed for the moment. Flip-flops and pajama pants weren’t even an option.
11. Giving Up Your Seat for Others
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In public transit, younger or able-bodied folks would instantly offer their seat to elders or pregnant women. It was instinct, not obligation.
12. Sending Holiday and Birthday Cards
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Mailboxes used to fill with thoughtful greetings and colorful cards. Now, birthdays are acknowledged with a quick text or forgotten entirely.
13. Speaking with Respect to Elders
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Using titles like “Sir,” “Ma’am,” or simply speaking with extra care was once non-negotiable. Conversations with older generations were slower, more patient, and deeply respectful.
14. Waiting to Eat Until Everyone Was Served
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Meals began with a sense of togetherness, not after the first plate hit the table. Waiting showed patience and unity. Now, it’s often a race to Instagram the food before anyone even sits.
15. Making Proper Introductions
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There was a time when you never left someone hanging in a conversation — introductions were thoughtful and prompt. “This is my friend” wasn’t enough; full names and context were key.
16. Walking Someone to Their Door
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After a date or visit, you didn’t just wave from the car — you walked them to the door. It was a final gesture of respect and safety. Now, goodbyes are sent with a horn honk or a “text me when you’re home.”