20 Green Flags That Prove Modern Dating Isn't Dead

It’s said that modern dating has become unbearable, and finding the right person is more complex than ever. While this might be true, factors still keep modern dating alive. So, to avoid missing the best person for you today, you should know the qualities to look for in your date. Search for these 20 surprising green flags that prove modern dating isn’t dead.

1. They’re emotionally intelligent

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Nowadays, spotting emotional intelligence is like finding a rare gem amidst a sea of regular stones. So, if your partner is emotionally intelligent, they’re a green flag who would never invalidate your feelings. Instead, they’ll be emotionally understanding, willing to share their feelings, not afraid to show vulnerabilities, and good at reading your innermost emotions. 

2. They’re great listeners

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It’s hard to listen when you’re not interested in something; that’s why someone who listens actively and attentively is a green flag. It shows how much they care about you or your interests and how much they pay attention to the things you do. Nowadays, many people tend to focus only on themselves, which makes it harder to find an actual connection with someone.

3. They respect your boundaries

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Red flags quickly dismiss your boundaries, meaning they’re unafraid to cross your limits and constantly upset you. On the contrary, green flags won’t have any issues with your boundaries because they also have their own. They also know that mature couples should have proper boundaries to make relationships last.

4. You have good communication

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Communication is one of the most common issues in any relationship; finding a partner who can communicate well with you is an absolute green flag. This means they’re vocal about the things that bother them, they’re not afraid to raise concerns, they call you out for poor behavior, and they willingly talk to you to make things work. With this, your arguments will mostly be productive, which will help your relationship grow.

5. They don’t hide any secrets

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With today’s technology, hiding things from someone, including your partner, has become more accessible. So, if your partner is fully transparent, they’re willing to build your relationship’s trust. This is a rare quality in modern dating since many people today hesitate to be honest due to their fear of being judged.

6. Knowing how to apologize

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Many people still struggle with apologizing; they don’t know how to take accountability or correctly say sorry without blaming you for their actions. That’s why if you’ve met someone who can do those things without question, you’re lucky to run into a green flag. This person will make you feel understood, they’ll keep your feelings validated, and they’ll work on improving themselves to avoid making the same mistakes.

7. Showing kindness to others

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Someone who is genuinely kind will not limit their kindness to you or to people they only know; this means they’re a green flag if they also treat others with kindness. For example, they’re polite towards staff workers, gentle towards children and elderly folks, or helpful to people in general. Genuine kindness is hard to fake, so pay attention to how they treat others.

8. Their effort is consistent

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It’s confusing to deal with someone whose effort is inconsistent. They’ll send mixed signals that confuse you about whether they’re genuinely into you, which can be frustrating. Meanwhile, green flags will be consistent with their effort; they’ll never make you doubt their intentions and affection for you.

9. Willingness to connect with you

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Doesn’t it feel awkward when conversations are one-sided and only one person tries to find a connection? That’s why it’s a green flag when you’re equally trying to connect. That means they’re actively asking questions to get to know you; they show genuine interest in what you say. They still manage to find a connection even if they have different personalities or hobbies in general.

10. Being considerate

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Someone who can forgive easily and is often considerate is also a green flag. Nowadays, many people are quick to walk away even from the most minor mistakes; it reflects their unhealthy and unrealistic standards. That’s why Green Flags are considerate people who can understand your flaws and encourage you to improve or learn from your mistakes.

11. They don’t talk negatively about other people

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Green flags rarely bring other people into the conversation; even when they do, they usually only mention the good things. That’s because they don’t waste their time talking about foul gossip and would instead talk about other good things. Meanwhile, a red flag may constantly put others down to make themselves feel better.

12. Their actions match their words

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Someone who walks their talk is a reliable person who can take responsibility for the words they say. They’re trustworthy because of how willing they are to prove their words; at the same time, they’ll do their best not to disappoint you. This kind of green flag will avoid making empty promises or false commitments. 

13. They express their interests

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It’s common for people to play guessing games on their dates because most people find it hard to express their thoughts. They do this to avoid coming off as “needy” or “desperate” for love, which also reflects their insecurities. That’s why a green flag won’t be afraid to verbally express how much they’re interested in you, saving you both the time from trying to read each other’s minds or intentions.

14. You feel safe in their presence

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They’re a vast green flag if your partner never makes you feel judged or criticized. They’ll make you feel safe in their presence because your flaws aren’t being attacked; your insecurities won’t be used against you. That’s because they deeply understand your emotional needs, making the effort to create a safe space for you in their arms.

15. They have healthy bonds with other people in their life

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You can tell if someone leads a healthy lifestyle if their relationship with others is also positive. This means they have a support system outside of their dating life, they keep in touch with friends, or they have good connections with their family. Either way, it tells you how well they get along with people in general, so make sure to pay attention to this quality, too.

16. Willingness to adjust to your needs

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Changes or sacrifices are bound to happen in a relationship, even during dating. If your partner seems willing to make minor adjustments for your needs, it’s already a healthy sign of being a green flag. It shows they can make things work with you, reflecting their interest in getting to know you more.

17. They’re in touch with their individuality

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Life doesn’t revolve around love and relationships; this implies that your partner should be someone who’s in touch with their individuality. They must have hobbies outside of their romantic life, personal goals or dreams, work on their careers, and show signs of being independent. A person like this is a green flag who won’t become too dependent on your relationship, ensuring that you’ll both have a balanced and healthy lifestyle even as a couple.

18. Actively talks about future plans

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If you’re talking about plans together, it shows that they’re interested in being in your life for a long time. With this level of commitment, they’re most likely a green flag who’s looking for a serious relationship. That’s why they won’t be afraid to tell you what they look forward to, ensuring that you’re both on the same page as a healthy couple whose goals are aligned.

19. Offers reassurance when needed

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Whenever you have doubts, a partner who truly cares for you won’t have difficulty reassuring you. That’s because they’d want nothing more than to build your trust as a couple, especially when they have nothing to hide in the first place. This is why they’re a green flag if they can comfort you instead of feeling personally attacked when you have trust-related concerns in your relationship.

20. Shows up during hard times

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Many people today are quick to give up on someone or walk away when the relationship is no longer fun, so if your partner still shows up during hard times, it reveals how much they’re committed to you. That means they’re happy to support you unconditionally, and that’s a reflection of their love, care, and affection for you. A partner like that is a green flag, so keep them by your side and show up when they need you, too.

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