20 Questions to Ask Before Making It Social Media Official

Wanting to love someone loud and proud in public or online is normal. However, social media can have different effects that you have to consider as a couple before taking this next step. This is the perfect time to communicate with your partner and determine if you agree. Ask them these 20 critical questions before making your relationship social media official.

1. “Do we know each other’s secrets?”

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Before announcing your relationship on Instagram or any social media, you’d want to know if your partner is fully transparent. Say you posted your photo together, and someone comments that they’re also dating your partner. Wouldn’t you feel devastated or betrayed? Not only that, but you’ll also end up feeling ashamed for not knowing your partner’s wildest secrets.

2. “What kind of thoughts do you have on couples using social media?”

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Not everyone is a big fan of using social media, and you’d be surprised to know if your partner is one of those people. After all, some couples on social media have a terrible reputation for faking their relationships for clout. So before making it Instagram official, you should find out how your partner feels about using social media together as a couple. 

3. “What kind of future do you want together?”

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Outside of Instagram, you’ll both live as a couple, so you want to know what kind of future you want together. If your goals don’t align, you might want to put your Instagram couple goals on hold and consider building a deeper connection with your partner first.

4. “Would you want to create social media content together?”

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While it’s unnecessary, you might also get the idea of publishing content on Instagram as a couple. Initially, this could start as harmless fun but may become an unhealthy obsession with gaining likes and online validation from strangers. That’s why you should discuss this possibility with your partner first and find out how you’ll handle it in the future as a couple.

5. “What do you fear the most online?”

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Some people have no regard for cybersecurity, while others are obsessed with having little to no digital footprint. So ask your partner if they have any particular fears online, such as having a past stalker who might rediscover them if you publicize your relationship on Instagram. These sensitive matters can affect your relationship, so prioritize your partner’s comfort over being an official couple on social media.

6. “How important is social media to you?”

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Knowing how much your partner cares about social media helps you decide if becoming official on Instagram matters. Some individuals are happy even if you keep your relationship private, while others also crave public approval, so they’d support the idea of being official on social media. It all boils down to your mutual agreement, so don’t forget to ask this question.

7. “Have you ever lied about our relationship?”

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Before setting yourself up for public humiliation, ask your partner if they have lied to other people about your relationship. For example, they may have never told their friends or family about your dating status. As a result, you might get mixed reactions from people without expecting it.

8. “Is there anything you’d change in our relationship?”

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You might think your relationship is Instagram perfect, and you can post your activities together with a hashtag, “#CoupleGoals.” But sometimes, your partner may not tell you if they’re unsatisfied, which may cause you to fall out in the long run. This is your chance to confront your partner and address what you need to improve together before focusing on social media.

9. “If you have the chance to go back to your ex, would you?”

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You wouldn’t want to announce your relationship if you might post about your breakup at any moment. That’s only going to embarrass you and break your heart both in public and in private. So, if you can confront your partner if they’re willing to dump you for an ex, take it as your chance to decide if they’re worthy of being your official Instagram lover.

10. “Would you leave a relationship if it meant achieving your dreams?”

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Similar to the previous slide, it’s embarrassing to scream your love in public when you’re not sure if your partner will stick with you for good. So ask them if they’re willing to trade your relationship if it means achieving their dreams. While this sounds like a good thing, and you might be selfless, your partner’s honest answer could still give you heartbreak.

11. “Are you happy or content in our relationship?”

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Unhappy partners may feel bitterness when they see you care more about social media than your relationship. So before you consider making it social media official, ask yourself if you’re pleased as a couple. Can you satisfy each other’s needs, and can you stay together in the long run? 

12. “Do you see me as your soulmate?”

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There’s no point in announcing a relationship you know will not last. So, if you or your partner believe you aren’t even soulmates, setting the Instagram goals aside might be a good idea for now. Instead, focus on reconnecting with your partner and figuring things out together first.

13. “Are you comfortable in making our relationship public?”

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Your relationship’s comfort comes first; this shows how much you respect each other’s boundaries. If your partner says “no, " you’ll have to accept and leave it as is. After all, there’s more to life and romance than keeping up appearances in public or social media.

14. “Would you rather keep things private between us?”

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Some people love the peace of having a private life. That’s why you should first determine whether your partner is okay with having a social media presence. Remember, gaining approval on social media will have little to no impact on your real life as a couple behind a screen.

15. “How much do you want the public to know about us?”

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If your partner doesn’t mind being social media official, you should still ask how much your partner is willing to share online. For example, they might dislike posting their photos without permission or don’t want the public to know about their sleeping habits. Always prioritize your relationship’s comfort over pleasing your friends and followers on social media.

16. “Do you consent to being posted online to make our relationship official?”

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Consent is crucial even when it comes to being posted online. Would you feel comfortable if someone posted you online without your permission? Never underestimate the value of asking for consent, no matter how deep your relationship is or how long you’ve known each other.

17. “Do you have any online boundaries?”

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Online boundaries are different from the ones you already have in real life. This means you must know if your partner is comfortable interacting with strangers online or if they’d rather keep your Instagram status exclusive to friends and family only. Always respect your boundaries as a couple, both in the real world and digital.

18. “Do you think I’m the one?”

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An unstable relationship isn’t worth announcing in public at all. You wouldn’t introduce a lover to your closest friends and family if you don’t think they’re the one. So before you take the massive step of publicizing your relationship, find out if you see each other as “the one.”

19. “Do you often compare your relationship with others you see online?”

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It’s common for some partners to be affected by what they see online. So, if your partner is sensitive to this kind of exposure, it’s better to be careful with what you post online as a couple. Ask your partner if they wouldn’t compare your relationship with all the “#RelationshipGoals” posts they might encounter on social media.

20. “Are we completely honest about each other’s lives?”

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Your partner may want entirely different things from you, and you’ll never know unless you ask them yourself. For example, they may be holding back from telling you the truth out of fear of disappointing your friends and family, who can only see the happy side of your relationship online. So before making everything completely official, sit down together and have a deep heart-to-heart talk.

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