20 Signs Your Dating Standards Are Actually Too Low
Concerning factors that show you need to raise your dating standards.
- Cyra Sanchez
- 7 min read
Sometimes it’s confusing whether your dating standards are too high or too low. After all, it’s normal to be uncertain if you are able to match the energy that you’re looking for. However, isn’t it better to ask for more than settle for less? If you think your standards are too low, then use this article as your guide to raise your dating standards.
1. You’re afraid of conflict
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Instead of facing conflicts, you might end up avoiding them or completely dismissing them. This wouldn’t solve any problems and can potentially make things worse in your relationship. So if you’re unable to face conflicts, you tend to settle for less and end up having low standards when searching for a partner.
2. You’re rushing to get into a relationship
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Do you find yourself easily entering new relationships all the time? This will leave you unable to heal from your past wounds and make it nearly impossible for you to grow. As a result, you may end up dating someone who doesn’t treat you well since they can see that you’re too impatient to have high standards.
3. You say yes to everything
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Having a lack of proper boundaries for yourself is an invitation for abusive people to walk into your life. This means you might tend to say yes to everything even if it means sacrificing your comfort. In the long run, this people-pleasing habit will not be pleasant for your future relationships.
4. You move on too fast from your previous relationships
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Do you find yourself recklessly jumping from one relationship to another? That’s a symptom of having low standards because it shows that you’re open to dating anyone who seems available to you. This is your sign to slow down and take time to find the perfect person for you instead of taking risks that may end up hurting you or other people.
5. You’re easily bored
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When you never know what to do by yourself, you may lean towards the idea of dating just for fun. This means you’re more likely to date anyone even without taking the time to get to know them properly. As a result, you’ll overlook the most obvious red flags and end up having low standards just to satisfy your boredom.
6. You ignore the initial red flags
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When your standards are too low, you close your eyes and ignore initial red flags. This leaves you vulnerable to abusive partners and people with toxic habits. This is your sign to wake up and raise your standards because you deserve better than settling for less.
7. You have a savior complex
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Some people are drawn to sad, broken souls and feel a strong urge to help them in life. Unfortunately, this may be a sign that you have a savior complex and you think you can save even the lowest of the low. As a result, even your dating standards may hit rock bottom, and the only one left who needs saving is you.
8. You’re the only one willing to make sacrifices
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Are you the one always making plans and offering to adjust in order to cater to your partner’s wants or needs? Then maybe you’re the only one who’s willing to make sacrifices in the relationship and that reflects your tragically low standards. Yes, we do everything for the people we love, but ask yourself first if they even deserve your love.
9. You settle for the bare minimum
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Most people know what they want in a partner, a.k.a, the lover of their dreams. But if you don’t have this image in your head, you’ll end up settling for the bare minimum which may leave you feeling empty and unhappy in your relationship. This means you’ll accept any treatment they offer, even if it means they disrespect you and violate your boundaries.
10. You have superficial priorities
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Someone with very low standards will only focus on superficial things such as physical appearance, financial status, social reputation, and such. With these kinds of preferences, you’re less likely to find someone who can form a real and deep connection with you. That’s why you should learn to appreciate more than what’s on the surface to find someone who truly is your other half.
11. You become too dependent
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When you’re too dependent on your partner, you end up becoming obsessed with them in an unhealthy way. This may happen without you even realizing it, but this means they hold so much power over you that the relationship can easily turn toxic if they’re an abusive person. There’s only one reason behind this and it’s because of having low standards not just for your partner, but also for yourself.
12. You find excuses for their poor behavior
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Anytime your partner does something that makes you feel bad, you end up justifying their behavior to make yourself feel better. This isn’t a healthy way to keep your relationship going, if anything, it’s a recipe for disaster. When you have low standards, you’ll tolerate even the lowest actions that most people would never accept.
13. You accept their abusive personality
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Having low standards also suggests having almost non-existent self-respect. This means you’ll enable your partner’s abusive personality, whether it’s towards you or other people around you. Not only will you end up harming yourself, but you’ll also encourage their abuse which may effect others too.
14. You think you can fix their personal issues
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Even if you don’t have a savior complex, you might just be a risk-taker who thinks you might have a chance of fixing a problematic person. This doesn’t show your kind spirit as an individual, if anything, it reflects your lack of proper standards. If you truly care about yourself, you’ll search for someone who won’t rely on you to fix them because you’re supposed to be a lover, not your partner’s therapist.
15. You have attachment issues
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Do you easily get attached to new people who enter your life and you find it devastating to think about losing them? In that case, you may have attachment issues caused by having low standards. That’s because you’re afraid that no one will stay with you since you often attract people who can’t establish a deep connection with you.
16. You lack self-esteem
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Having low standards is a reflection of low self-esteem. When you don’t have confidence in yourself or believe you have any kind of value, you’ll end up attracting red flags that will only take advantage of your weaknesses. You may think that you’re the lowest of the low so you’ll accept the slightest display of affection which can end up making things worse in the long run.
17. You’re waiting for change
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If you’ve given enough time to your partner and nothing has changed yet you still stay with them, then that’s a sign of having low standards. Remember, waiting usually solves nothing and you’ll only be stuck in the same place. You won’t heal or grow and you’ll only end up hurting yourself.
18. You neglect your individual life
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Sometimes, your world may revolve around the person you’re dating. However, this commonly happens to people who have low standards since it shows their lack of having a healthy, individual life. Anyone who can maintain their personal life without making everything revolve around their romantic partner is probably capable of having high standards.
19. You can’t connect with your partner
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When you have low standards, you’ll find it hard to find genuine connections as well. This will reflect not only from your partner’s end but also from you. As a result, you may end up disrespecting your partner and hurt them if you’re incompatible.
20. You have trouble with communication
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If you have low standards, it also means you can’t properly articulate the things you want or need. Due to that, you’ll struggle to communicate what you’re actually looking for in a partner. This leads to people taking advantage of you or having a lot of arguments if your partner is unaware of your desires.