20 Silent Signs Your Partner is Emotionally Available

Emotions can be complicated to grasp especially when you’re dealing with relationships. That’s why it’s important to have a partner who connects with you not just on a superficial level, but also on an emotional level. So if you’re looking for an ideal lover that can keep your relationship healthy, here are the 20 silent but meaningful signs of an emotionally available partner.

1. They never invalidate your feelings

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You may never notice it at first, but someone emotionally available will be very considerate of your feelings. This means they won’t gaslight you or manipulate you into thinking that you’re the one who’s in the wrong and they’re the only victims. Instead, they acknowledge your emotions and are willing to work with you to improve your relationship.

2. You no longer feel alone when they’re around

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When you’re dealing with emotionally unavailable people, it also feels like they’re physically absent, even when they’re right by your side. But if your partner is emotionally available, they never make you feel alone and can live in the moment with you simply because of how well-aware they are of your emotions as a couple. In other words, they make you feel seen, heard, and valued.

3. They’re not afraid to show vulnerability

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Someone in tune with their emotions isn’t afraid to show vulnerability. This means they can regulate their feelings so they won’t randomly explode on you or others. It also shows that they trust you enough to want comfort because they know they’ll do the same for you when you’re feeling vulnerable.

4. You feel like you’re at home in their presence

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Emotionally available partners effortlessly make you feel safe in their presence. This means being held in their arms or spending time with them makes you feel at home. Meanwhile, emotionally unavailable partners may tend to have unhealthy habits that can keep you on guard as if you’re walking on eggshells.

5. They don’t judge you or other people

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Being judgmental is a sign of emotional immaturity, which means they may have less consideration and understanding of people. So, if your partner never judges you or other people so quickly, it’s a clear sign that they’re an emotionally available and intelligent person. This is one of the qualities that make it easy for anyone to feel safe in their presence.

6. They openly talk about their emotions

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Anyone who’s emotionally available is never afraid to talk about their emotions. This means they can calmly tell you when they feel upset or want a hug from you to feel better, and they’ll never shut you out or give you silent treatment. This makes it easier to communicate with each other to avoid misunderstandings that could end in hurtful fights.

7. They respect your boundaries

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Emotionally available people know how essential boundaries are, so they’ll always respect yours. They’ll never try to go overboard unless you openly tell them it’s okay. This gives them a profoundly gentle nature that makes any relationship multiple times healthier.

8. They’re a good listener

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If your partner pays attention to everything you say or do, no matter what it’s about, it shows that they’re emotionally available and sincerely cares about you. Meanwhile, someone who is emotionally absent can barely notice the subtle changes in your mood; they don’t see your body language, and they don’t show any care for your interests because they tend to be more self-centered. 

9. They’re always happy to comfort you

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To emotionally unavailable people, comforting someone is exhausting because they don’t know where to pull their empathy or sincerity from. But someone who’s emotionally mature will always be happy to give you the comfort you need, even when they’re going through hard times. They’re often selfless and capable of prioritizing your emotions when you genuinely need them by your side.

10. They never dismiss your problems

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An emotionally available partner will always listen to your problems, whether it involves your relationship or not. This means they’ll take the time to stop what they’re doing, ask if they can help you with your trouble, and offer their comfort when you’re done opening up to them. Instead of feeling bothered and dismissing you, they’ll feel relieved that you trust them enough to rant about your worries and troubles.

11. You feel comfortable to talk about anything

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Someone who never judges or invalidates you and never dismisses your troubles will make you feel safe enough to talk about anything. So, with an emotionally available partner, you can freely engage in deep, meaningful talks about life or your interests. Any discussion with them feels like you’re opening up to your best friend or your soulmate other than just a lover.

12. They’re not afraid to handle conflict

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Emotionally unavailable people tend to run away from conflict, meaning they might give you the silent treatment or go into stonewall mode. This is very unhealthy and the exact opposite of emotionally available people who would go out of their way to address the conflict themselves. When they’re willing to discuss conflict, it shows that they want to fix your relationship before it becomes more problematic, proving how much they care about your relationship.

13. You both communicate easily

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Communication becomes as easy as breathing when your partner is emotionally available. That’s because they’ll never make you feel judged, invalidated, or like you’re walking on eggshells whenever you try to express your needs with them. At the same time, your emotionally available partner will happily sit down to discuss any concerns in your relationship because they know it’s also for your good as a couple.

14. They’re clear about their boundaries

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Other than respecting your boundaries, an emotionally available person will also have their boundaries. They’ll make these clear and reasonable enough to ensure you’re both on the same page, preventing possible misunderstandings in your relationship. This is because they’re deeply in touch with their emotions, so they’re also well aware of their own limitations, and they’d expect you to be gentle with their boundaries just as they are with yours.

15. You can talk about future plans together

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A couple who can safely discuss their future together shows that they’re both emotionally available to each other. After all, it takes serious commitment to think about your plans together. Meanwhile, someone who’s emotionally unavailable is usually afraid of commitment, and thus, they might avoid discussing plans with you because they’re still uncertain of their own emotions.

16. They’re no longer haunted by their past

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When you’re emotionally mature, you learn to let go of your past, especially if it’s an unhealthy one that can drag you down and affect your current relationship. That’s why an emotionally available partner will confidently look forward to a brighter future with you. This is unlike emotionally unavailable people who may still be stuck in their past, and it adds to why they can’t grow as people; their emotions are still frozen in time.

17. Your arguments are often productive

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You can tell your partner is emotionally available if you rarely argue, but if you ever do, the arguments turn out productive. This means you both manage to get your points across, reach a mutual understanding, and agree to fulfill each other’s needs. This helps your relationship grow and become more robust, which is the opposite of having an emotionally unavailable partner who can’t resolve the issue with you even after an argument.

18. They’re always willing to meet your needs

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When you tell an emotionally unavailable person about something that bothers you, they might react negatively by shutting you down or mocking you for having basic human feelings. They may tell you that you’re asking for too much, or you’re being ridiculous, even if they’re the ones acting dismissive towards you. So, if your partner often makes an effort to ensure they’re fluent in all your love languages, you’re in luck because it means they’re emotionally mature and earnest about you.

19. They maintain their life outside of your relationship

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An emotionally available person is bound to have a stable, healthy lifestyle outside your relationship. This means they keep in touch with their social circles, connect with friends and family, or invest in their individuality to keep their identity in check. These are all healthy signs that tell you they have a support system to rely on other than themselves.

20. They don’t keep any secrets

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Privacy is essential, but keeping secrets is a whole different thing. Someone emotionally available has no reason to hide things from you or keep secrets that could put your relationship at risk. This means they’re willing to show you every part of themselves and introduce you to the people in their life, unlike emotionally unavailable people who might hide many things from you and you’ll never even know.

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