20 Ways to Express Love Without Saying 'I Love You'
Different love languages to show you love someone through actions.
- Cyra Sanchez
- 8 min read
Love can be expressed in so many ways. But if verbally saying you love someone doesn’t feel lik enough, it’s time to look into other ways to show your love through actions and not just words. That’s why you should learn your partner’s love languages to become fluent in loving them completely. Don’t worry, in this article, you’ll discover the 20 best ways to express your love via actions.
1. Include them in everything possible
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One of the best ways to show you love someone is to make them feel included, make them feel like they belong in your world. This means you’ll always stop to invite them or make plans that involve their presence. Once they notice that you want to be around them as much as possible, they might realize that you love them sincerely.
2. Compliment them sincerely
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A genuine compliment can always brighten up your day, so never miss the opportunity to compliment your special someone. For example, you can pay attention to their hair, their outfit, their smile, their perfume, how efficiently they handle a task, or how smart they are. Don’t forget to mention things you admire about them that go beyond physical appearance.
3. Be a great listener
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You can tell that someone’s deeply interested in you if they always listen to anything you want to talk about. That’s why you should be a great listener and be proactive, tell them that you want to know more just to get to know them better as a person. Oftentimes, they’ll feel touched that you care enough about their words and they will feel your love.
4. Pay attention to their interests
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When you’re a great listener, noticing your partner’s interests becomes much easier. This makes it possible for you to find out what they like and connect with them on a deeper level, which takes a good amount of effort. And remember, effort is one way to express your love for someone!
5. Spend time with them whenever you can
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There are five main love languages and one of them is quality time. So if you want to express your love to someone, do your best to spend time with them when you have a chance. This shows them that you’re always glad to be in their presence, regardless if you’re doing anything extraordinary or simply existing together.
6. Plan special dates for both of you
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You don’t need to wait for any special occasion to plan a special date for your partner. You can pick any day you’re both free and turn it into something special. This is a more direct way of expressing your love for someone, but it’s also a way to show them that you simply want quality time to bond with them.
7. Surprise them with their favorite food
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Most people can never say no to their favorite food. If you’re an active listener, you probably know their favorite snacks and drinks by now! So use this as a way to express your love, you can make the food yourself to make it extra special or you can simply surprise them by buying it for them on a random day.
8. Offer help whenever they need
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When you love someone, you naturally want to share their burdens to make things easier for them. That’s why you always offer to help them whenever they need it, even the smallest favor can help lighten their load. By doing this without expecting something in return, you show that your love for them is genuine.
9. Show them things that remind you of them
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Most people communicate online today, and thanks to that, a new way of showing love is born and it’s called “pebbling.” This is whenever you show something to your special someone because it reminds you of them or you simply think they’ll like it. It can be anything, a motivational quote, a sweet photo, a funny meme, or even a cute animal video.
10. Update them regularly about your day
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If you’re not always around your special someone, you can show your love by regularly keeping them tuned into your daily life. Send them good morning or good evening texts, remind them to eat on time, check up on them, or ask them if they need help with anything. Those little things show the other person that you’re always thinking of them no matter what.
11. Express how much you miss them
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Love can also be expressed by telling someone that you miss them. After all, you wouldn’t miss the presence of someone you don’t have any affection for. So don’t be afraid to be honest, send them a message or if you run into them, verbally express that you miss them and that should be enough to let them know you value spending time with them.
12. Show your concern for their welfare
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Loving someone means you’ll always be worried about their well-being. When you’re not around them, you might wonder if they’re eating properly, if they’re taking care of themselves, or if they’re feeling down. That’s why you should make it a habit to ask about their day, ask how they’re doing, and express how much you worry for them to show that you care.
13. Talk about future plans with them
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One way to show someone that you deeply love them is to let them know you want them in your life for as long as possible. You can do this by casually discussing plans with them, like suggesting doing certain activities or reaching certain milestones together. This simple gesture can make them realize that you love them enough to want them in your future.
14. Be willing to open up to them
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It’s hard to convince someone that you love them when you’re still hiding parts of yourself from them. That’s why it’s good to show them that you trust them enough to be vulnerable around them or to open up by talking about your deepest thoughts. The best part of this is you can establish a deeper connection with each other which can strengthen your bond.
15. Connect with their friends or family
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When given the chance, don’t hesitate to connect with your special person’s loved ones. By showing them that you can get along well with their friends and family, they’ll feel safer in your presence because you’re putting in the effort to befriend their inner circle. Since socializing also takes effort, this is a great way to show someone that you love them enough to embrace their world.
16. Always show your support for them
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If you want to express your love, don’t be a silent supporter. Instead, be your special person’s number-one fan and show up whenever you can. Celebrate their accomplishments, cheer them on, be their shoulder to cry on during hard times, and simply be unconditionally supportive to show how much you love them.
17. Be affectionate with consent
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Physical touch is another love language that your special someone might appreciate. But before you get close to them, always be polite enough to ask permission, like asking if you can hug them or hold their hand. This will make them realize how much you respect them and that you love them deeply enough to want to be physically affectionate with them.
18. Write them a thoughtful message
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Words of affirmation is another love language that some people crave, so take the chance to write your partner a sweet, thoughtful message. You can send a handwritten note or a text, either way, most people will find this gesture simple yet romantic. The more thoughtful the message is, the better you can express your love for that person.
19. Be there in their times of need
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During hard times, you naturally seek the comfort of the people you love and trust. That’s why you should show up when your special person is struggling to let them know that they’re not alone and they can rely on you if they need. After all, someone who loves you would never abandon you during hard times.
20. Ask them about their thoughts
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Aside from showing that they can rely on you, you should also show them that you rely on them too. For example, ask them about their opinions and thoughts on certain things. Not only will it make them feel trusted, but it also shows you value their voice and you consider them before you make difficult decisions.