20 Ways to Protect Your Peace in the Dating Process
20 ways to date like a Zen master--where peace is protected, drama is deflected, and "emergency exit strategies" are on standby.
- Alyana Aguja
- 5 min read
Dating will often prove to be an emotional obstacle course, but with these twenty peace-protecting hacks, you will keep you cool and stay just far enough from anyone who can possibly disrupt your peace. You’ll learn how to set boundaries like a boss and master the smooth exit during the times when there is drama.
1. Have an “Emergency Exit” Plan
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There’s no shame in having a trusted buddy on standby for a call if things go wrong. You can get dramatic, like, “I have to go rescue my cat from the blender!” Remember, your peace is worth the smoothest of exits.
2. Set Boundaries Like a Pro
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Don’t let someone treat your texts like they’re open 24/7. You are not a customer service hotline; you have your own life. Boundaries keep things respectful and make you look like a boss.
3. Become Cool with Saying “No”
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It’s a powerful “no,” whether to a second date or a late-night text. Saying no keeps the peace because it sets clear limits, and explanations are unnecessary. And it’s the ultimate move for retaining the mystery.
4. Don’t Overanalyze Their Texts
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If they say “k” instead of “okay,” don’t lose any sleep over it. That’s a letter, not a secret message. Sometimes that “k” really is just a “k.” It doesn’t have anything to say about your entire romantic life.
5. Put Your Phone Away During Dates
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Nothing says “I’m cool, calm, and collected” like living in the moment. Stretching to your phone creates quick anxieties or distractions that ruin the groove. And trust me, you’ll spot red flags much faster in person!
6. Don’t Rush to Define the Relationship
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Trying to slap a label on things too soon can turn your chill into chaos. Let the connection breathe before demanding labels. Sometimes, the best relationships bloom without forcing “What are we?”
7. Keep Your Friends Close for Pep Talks
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Friends are excellent at pointing out red flags you would otherwise miss. Turn to them for a reality check whenever things start getting fuzzy. They’ll be able to clear things up for you and are great for post-date gossip!
8. Don’t Play Therapist
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You are dating, not a therapy session. You are not carrying their burdens, only yours. Define the depth at which you go to keep the spark and not get bogged down.
9. Remember Your Worth, Always
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Do not shrink to fit someone else’s idea of you. You are a whole package deal, not a clearance discount. Knowing your worth is like an invisible superpower in the dating world.
10. Limit Your Social Media Stalking
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Getting sucked into their social feed is a one-way ticket to comparison-ville. You keep your peace intact when you keep a little mystery in the mix. Plus, there is no need to know what they looked like in 2012.
11. Schedule “You” Time After Dates
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Instill the habit of doing something soothing or pampering after every date, like having a spa bath or binging on your favorite series. Post-date rituals remind you that you are the center of your life. If the date was a mess, at least the night’s end is golden!
12. Keep Your Expectations Manageable
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Not every date is your future spouse, so keep the bar at “pleasant evening” rather than “true love.” Save yourself the disappointment by treating dates as low-stakes get-to-know-yous. Think of a fun interview, not a fairy tale.
13. Don’t Feel Compelled to Share Everything
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Don’t share everything you are thinking, your dream, and your snack preferences. Keep some mysteries to yourself; they’ll be left wondering and trying to figure things out. Plus, over-sharing can lead to thinking for both of you.
14. Create a “Red Flag” Radar
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Train yourself to note the subtle warning early on. Constant interruptions or nonstop talk about the ex? Make a mental note of it, and let your radar do its thing.
15. Have a Sense of Humor About It All
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Dating can be weird, awkward, and just plain funny. Quirky is an understatement, and you’ll catch yourself chuckling at things that seem to go sideways. A laugh is an excellent buffer for maintaining the peace when things, well, get awkward.
16. Stop These “Talking Stages” ASAP
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If they are not attempting to meet you in person, forget about them. You are looking for a date, not a texting partner. If they keep stalling, thank them for their time and wish them well in their continued search.
17. Always Choose Places You Enjoy for Dates
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Choose a favorite coffee shop or park that calms you. That way, no matter how the date goes, you’re happy. Plus, familiarity keeps you calm, and caffeine never hurts anyone.
18. Gently Politely Decline the “Ex Talk”
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You don’t need to fall down the rabbit hole of their entire dating history. If they won’t stop talking about exes, that’s a huge red flag. Your time is to get to know you, not play therapist for their past.
19. Listen to Your Gut — Every Time
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Your gut knows what’s happening; don’t listen to that nagging inside. When you feel that something just isn’t right, it probably isn’t. Confidence in your instincts will keep the peace.
20. Focus on Your Own Happiness
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Dating is just one aspect of your life, not the whole shebang. Never get so caught up in romance that you lose sight of what makes you happy beyond romance. When you’re true to who you are in all that’s good about you, you bring that best self on any date.
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