20 Ways to Make Someone Feel Truly Appreciated

Discover heartfelt and practical ways to make someone feel truly valued, strengthening your connections and spreading genuine joy.

  • Alyana Aguja
  • 5 min read
20 Ways to Make Someone Feel Truly Appreciated
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Appreciation is a powerful way of fostering relationships and making people feel that they are actually appreciated. From a handwritten letter and a personalized gift to meaningful encouragement and advocacy, there are a lot of ways to show that you care. By celebrating their uniqueness, recognizing their efforts, and simply being present, you can create long-lasting bonds and spread true joy in their lives.

1. Write Them a Handwritten Letter

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In a world where people spend most of their time online, receiving a handwritten letter stands out. Take the time to express how much they mean to you, with specific examples of why you’re grateful. It’s a keepsake they’ll cherish forever.

2. Give Genuine Compliments

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Compliments feel most impactful when they are specific and authentic. Instead of a generic “Good job,” say, “I admire how you handled that situation with such grace and thoughtfulness.” This kind of feedback makes people feel truly seen.

3. Celebrate Their Achievements

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Recognize their wins, big or small, with enthusiasm. Whether it’s a promotion or finishing a challenging project, celebrate with a thoughtful gesture. It shows that their efforts matter to you.  

4. Ask for Their Opinion

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Asking someone for their opinion on a decision shows you respect their judgment. Frame your request as, “I value your perspective and would love your thoughts on this.” It not only boosts their confidence but also deepens your connection.

5. Be Present When You’re With Them

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Give people your undivided attention by removing distractions like phones. Active listening and eye contact can make someone feel deeply valued. This simple act demonstrates respect and genuine care.

6. Surprise Them with a Thoughtful Gift

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Pick something that reflects their interests or personality—a book they’d love, their favorite treat, or a meaningful keepsake. It’s not about extravagance, but about showing you truly know them. Thoughtful surprises spark joy and connection.

7. Acknowledge Their Efforts Publicly

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A shoutout in a meeting or a heartfelt toast at dinner can go a long way. Public recognition amplifies the impact of your gratitude. It’s a powerful way to lift their spirits and showcase your appreciation.

8. Support Their Goals

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Ask them about their dreams, and find a way to energize them. Whether through resources, cheering, or just believing in them, your support can make all the difference to them. It shows you actually care about their development and happiness.

9. Find Time for Them

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Time is one of the most precious things you can give. Schedule regular catch-ups, even if it’s just a coffee or a phone call. Your willingness to prioritize them speaks volumes.

10. Cook Them a Meal

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There’s something uniquely intimate about preparing a meal for someone. Choose their favorite dishes or surprise them with something new. Sharing food is a universal way to connect and show you care.  

11. Recognize Their Unseen Efforts

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Notice and acknowledge the work they do behind the scenes. A simple, “I see how much effort you’ve put into this, and it doesn’t go unnoticed.” can mean a lot to them. Validation fuels motivation and joy.

12. Encourage Self-Care

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Sometimes, the most appreciated thing is to care about their well-being. Try taking one thing off their plate by offering something or a gift of relaxation, like a spa day or a nice reading book. Remind them that their health and happiness matter to you.

13. Celebrate Their Uniqueness

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Remind them of what is exceptional about them and that no one can replace them. Tell them, “You just always bring such creativity to everything you do-it’s inspiring.” Such affirmations remind them of their value.

14. Send a Text of Appreciation

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Sometimes, a simple heartfelt message such as, “I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you.” can be the pick-me-up. Simple acts of appreciation do not necessarily require a grand gesture; sometimes, the little things make the most difference.

15. Be Their Champion

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Speak up on their behalf when they are absent. whether at work or social settings; showing support for another is a sign of loyalty and respect. Trust is created, and a long bond is developed.

16. Understand What They Care About

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Express interest in their hobbies, favorite programs, or passions. It is not just participation but being attached to what matters to them. It creates a connection, and both can appreciate each other’s thoughts.

17. Create Memories Together

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Shared experiences build lasting bonds. Plan something meaningful, like a day trip, a class, or even a simple walk in the park. It’s about quality time and the memories you’ll both treasure.  

18. Say “Thank You” Often

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Never underestimate the power of a simple, heartfelt “Thank you.” State specific appreciation to them, such as, “Thanks for always being such a good listener.” Regular acknowledgment strengthens relationships.

19. Apologize When Necessary

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A sincere apology shows you value the relationship if you have hurt them. Own your mistakes and explain how you’ll do better next time. It means you respect them and are stepping towards rebuilding trust in the relationships.

20. Be Their Cheerleader

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Encourage and believe in them. Remind them of their potential and strengths whenever they doubt their abilities. With your support and encouragement, even the toughest minds can become easy to deal with.

Written by: Alyana Aguja

Alyana is a Creative Writing graduate with a lifelong passion for storytelling, sparked by her father’s love of books. She’s been writing seriously for five years, fueled by encouragement from teachers and peers. Alyana finds inspiration in all forms of art, from films by directors like Yorgos Lanthimos and Quentin Tarantino to her favorite TV shows like Mad Men and Modern Family. When she’s not writing, you’ll find her immersed in books, music, or painting, always chasing her next creative spark.

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